Do you guys believe in the concept of chemistry in a relationship?
The first time I started understanding that this exist was after watching the movie, I Can’t Think Straight by Shamim Sarif.
Chemistry is something which cannot be forced in a relationship doesn’t matter whether in friendship, romantic relationship, relationships with classmates or even with co-workers.
At times you will try to match with them by forcing yourselves to do the things that they like. However how hard you try, it will be like a magnetic force that repel. Any words that you say, or anything that you had tried to start the conversation with such as talking about the weather or the news, everything...everything are not working at all. In fact, it will be from bad to worst. And during that moment, you wish someone else will interrupt your conversation just so you could escape.
Recently, which was around 2018 and 2019 when I continued my studies. I was taking my Masters at that time. I will get bored when there is none of my classmates that I could you know have a crush on. It is not that none of them are beautiful or smart. But I don’t have someone who I look forward to see when I come to class.
Then, when another batch of my classmates joined us two months later, one morning when I entered the lecture hall, my eyes automatically locked on one of my new classmates. Listen, I don’t know her name or her personality. I have zero knowledge about her. She was sitting with one of my other classmates.
I couldn’t stop myself from looking at her side which I feel like she could sense it. But she didn’t really look at me directly. So since then, I will try to find reasons to start conversation with her. After a few modules, I could feel she knew it becos she did respond to my flirting and sometimes stealing smiles when she noticed. And then at times, we will just hold each other’s arms and hands for no reasons while walking with our classmates. Listen, we do not hangout with the same group of friends neither have we talked about anything or everything.
All this while, I have been analysing and trying out what exactly is chemistry and how it works.
Is it something which is secreted from our body that the other person could also feel it?
Is it something that they can see through our eyes?
Is it something like attention given from someone to you and is very obvious?
Because what I noticed is that it is like a mutual response.
S. Sulianah Swift-Kendrick