Hi Everyone! Happy New Year 2022! 

I just wanna wish you all here just so we all remember that we managed to go through the pandemic years and we are still going through it again in fact with another variant. Anyway, see you all and I hope everyone is in a good shape at the end of 2022.

Have fun and remember to enjoy the moments!

Why focus on the present and what the future can bring to us instead of the past? And what motivates me to write this? Well, just last week during a lunch and tea meetup with my two close friends, one of them asked us this question Would you like to go back to the past to change anything? The answer for myself is Nope, definitely not. My answer was not influenced by the many 'timeline' related movies I had watched, it is more than that. On the other hand, one of my friends replied, Why not? Maybe there is something that can be changed in the past which is better for you? 

I did not reply to her immediately because I did not want to sound condescending, or like as if I have all what I had been wanted in my life now. Usually whenever I had something in mind, I will make sure that whatever I am thinking or pursuing is in the right path so that is why I will do research on topics related to the issue. 

These are some of my main reasons I would not like to go back to my past. This decision I had made is supported by the books and articles I had read and from videos of motivational speakers in relation to similar subject. 
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1. All these years to this very moment, I have worked so hard and put in effort to do the things I wanted to do in my life. As simple as being here writing this during a day when most people has to be at work. Other examples like attaining my Masters, travel around the world by myself, write and publish books, setup and run my own businesses and make money out of it, learn new skills, gain vast experiences in my career, be successful in my career paths and any ventures I had been through so far, building self-confidence and be comfortable with myself, learning to understand myself, be contented and happy with my own life, feel free, be in a safe environment, be with people who are suitable for me in my life, not be with people who are not right for me and so on. These are what I have been wanting since I was 15. The ones that I prayed every day and asked from The Almighty. And I can say I managed to achieved all of those I had mentioned above.
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2. I could not imagine any other paths other than the ones I had been through. This is what I would like to have. And the paths that I went through to achieve those are not that hard in comparison to possible others. In fact, most of it I managed to go through and achieved without that heavy burden, a challenge yes but not burden. Because I had asked for it to be like this during my prayers. And why should I change it when it is not that difficult to attain those?  
   
   
3. Going to go through all those late nights of writing thesis, group projects were great and yes as part of the package. No complains. I do not mind going through another similar situations but for another level of my education, not to repeat the same. Which means, I do not mind spending time and money again to achieve my phD but not to repeat another degree or masters. Why waste time when I can do many other new explorations and build new relationships with new people? 
   
   
4. Another big item plans since I was 15 was my aspiration to travel around the world. If you know me, you would already know the type of places I had went to. To achieve that budget and time (2 to 3 weeks of vacation leave) I had during those years were unbelievable and till now I feel like Wow, did I really get to do all those things by myself? It was not a miracle or something. I wanted it, I prayed and tell God that I want those and so there it goes. When I did flashbacks to my past, I really am amazed by how I got to achieve those like I had asked for. So, to tell me to go back to my past and change something, I could not imagine anything else other than what I had gone through because I feel like I have done it all and had a great time seeing new places and meeting the nicest versions in people during the time I was traveling by myself. Can you believe it when I said that I had spent S$42,000 on my Masters for 1.5 years, and still have the money AND time to travel to Japan, get a VVIP Ticket to Taylor Swift's reputation concert in Tokyo that cost ~ S$650, go shopping to the extreme, pay for extra baggage cost and not throw anything from inside my luggage just to avoid paying the excess baggage fee, travel to 4 states in Canada, celebrate my first overseas birthday there and took 3 weeks of vacation leave from my ex-workplace, went to the coldest city in the world, to the coldest place in the world, which was not part of the initial travel plan but was the Travel the World plan and many others I managed to do. Yes, I am thankful and grateful. 
   
   
5. How about with the people I had met that maybe I could have avoided in the past? Thinking back on this, I feel like so far it was what it was meant to be. With those experiences, I am who I am today. The person you see me become is influenced partly by the type of people I had met in my past. The things I had learnt to be such as avoiding certain type of characters of people, why I will be careful when I speak to people, being selective when choosing my close small circle of friends, why I am selective to what I shared to people and so on. These are some of a few examples just because of those people I had met in my past, like not being trustworthy, disrespectful and many other possible reasons. However, usually I will take advantage of those good or even unpleasant experiences with people and develop something positive with it. 
   For instance, with those encounters, I will usually analyse it for my own character building, and then develop those as contents by writing articles, poems, videos, scripts and books which could benefit readers in a positive light such as how to identify and manage difficult people, sociopath, psychopaths, disrespectful people, selfish individuals and the not trustworthy type of people. Like I have mentioned in my latest book, Be Brave: Uncensored Motivational Quotes which I had also highlighted the ways you can handle certain type of individuals in your life. 
   
   
6. For me, whatever had happened and wherever I was and am now in the timeline is where I am supposedly to be. I am happy with it, content, thankful and grateful with any decisions I had made and anything that I had achieved with what I had in my mind, in fact better.
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7. Just to share with you guys something which I had read and found. Remember not to be too focus on your future and also be regretful or think too much about what had happened in your past and what is going to happen to you in the future. This will increase your anxiety, could also cause depression and all the worries and disappointments in you. Be here. And keep moving forward and do not look back. Do not care about you think others will think about you. Like I am serious about this. No one cares about you literally in a way like what you are doing right now, or what are you having for lunch just now. They have their own life to be proud of. I am repeating what I had said in Be Brave: Uncensored Motivational Quotes but in case you have not read that book yet, I am saying it here. There are so many other interesting things and experiences waiting for you and for you to try. Yes, you can learn the lessons from your past experiences because that is what we are meant to do as a human to learn, change, improve, relearn and move on. 

 

• The only thing I will tell my old self even though this is actually not regrets, this is more of reminding myself now and for my future is to Yes, you can give space to learn to trust people but do not trust them too much, doesn't matter how long you have known them.
• Also to trust my instincts, do not argue or questioned it. Those are signs to warn me of the true colors of something my conscious and eyes could not see. 
• And to remember to embrace more who I want to be. In fact, one essential factor is that I am glad that my past listened to myself and not listen to what others say about what life should be for me like for instance who they want me to be, it doesn't matter my friends, ex-friends, strangers or relatives. I am thankful that I didn't even stop to give them a chance to dictate my life or how I should be. For those who managed to utter a sentence with that essence, I made the right decisions to leave and never turn back.

I am looking forward to embrace these moments that I have been working on and the new experiences which are ready for me.
And the answer is still No, I will not want to go back to my past and change anything that there could be/might be/possibly be etc something better for me. And yes, if I ever I go back there again, a stubborn human like me, I will repeat the same mistakes that I might not learn from it anyway. So....

See you all in 2022 instead of the 2000!!

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